I'll be a bit hit and miss over the coming week or so. My mum is moving into rest home care so I'm traveling to visit my parents and help with
the settling in. Will be away around two weeks at this stage.

...I'm only four weeks behind, now. So I'm going to hope that she's settled in, and that things have gone as well as possible, given the inherent challenges.

Because, yeah, that's a big change, and one that can be hard to accept and embrace, even when it's the best possible option.

*hugs* and good luck.

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On 22 Dec 2022 at 11:03a, Adept pondered and said...

...I'm only four weeks behind, now. So I'm going to hope that she's settled in, and that things have gone as well as possible, given the inherent challenges.

Thanks :)

Yes she's settled in but in declining health, just assessed as needing a higher level of care than when first admitted. It's the sad truth there's only one pathway she's on, just not sure how long it is.

It's Christmas Day as I write and I was lucky enough to get a short FaceTime with her today which was nice. It's my Dad I kinda of feel more for as he's quite adrift and struggling a bit to cope. I'm calling him most days to offer a chat and moral support. I live 2 x air flights away from him so it's all I can really do at this stage.

I hope you and your family have a nice Christmas / New Year and thanks for posting in fsx...

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Yes she's settled in but in declining health, just assessed as needing a higher level of care than when first admitted. It's the sad truth
there's only one pathway she's on, just not sure how long it is.

Yeah, it sucks. When my dad was dying of cancer a couple years ago, people would ask how he's doing, and he'd say something along the lines of, "busily dying".

Because, at some point there's only so much you can do. And it sucks. Just hopefully it can be made to suck less than it might.

So, my condolences to everyone involved, because, yeah, it's awful.

It's Christmas Day as I write and I was lucky enough to get a short FaceTime with her today which was nice. It's my Dad I kinda of feel more for as he's quite adrift and struggling a bit to cope. I'm calling him most days to offer a chat and moral support. I live 2 x air flights away from him so it's all I can really do at this stage.

I've read about circles of grief (or something along that line), and basically everyone should console and feel bad for everyone that's a circle closer in, while sharing their difficulties to the circle outside.

So your mom is at the center, then your dad, then you. And, yeah, roughest for your mom, but... all of us lucky enough to not have to deal with this sort of thing at the moment can certainly wish the best to you, and to your mom and dad, because, yeah, awful.

I hope you and your family have a nice Christmas / New Year and thanks
for posting in fsx...

Thanks. Mine was quiet, though I did see my immediate family over Zoom, and go for a walk with a friend, as well as doing things that are somewhat of a Christmas tradition (e.g., making cinnamon rolls, and also making Aebleskiver (Danish pancake balls)).

And likewise for you, and for all your work with FSXnet. I know there are a lot of people out there in BBSing land that do a lot of work to make something neat, and while it's a small community, I appreciate the work people put in, even if I don't wind up directly seeing it.

And so much the better when I get to enjoy it (or them) directly.

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